How to face failures in life part 6

How to make a failure into a success story? .As human beings, we are all conditioned by our upbringing. Our upbringing as a child and as adult. Our parents, family members, teachers and maybe friends – may have given us an unhealthy attitude or outlook towards failure. In such a case, one of the best things you can do is to shift your perspective and belief system away from the negative. For example, “If I fail means, I am stupid, weak, incapable, and I am destined to fall short.”  In such a case, try to  embrace more positive associations and attitude such as,  “If I fail, I am one step closer to success; I am smarter than before, I have gained through this experience of failure a new lesson. If you ask those who have distinguished themselves through their achievements, they will tell you that failure was a critical enabler of their success. It was their motivator and their teacher.  A stepping stone along the path to greatness is to accept failure and move ahead with hope.You need to analyze and learn from your failures rather than blame your life or your fate or your background. Take courage and say: this is the time to act and make a success story of my life.

How to face failures in life part 5

Be free from the need for the approval of others: We need to have a balanced view on the opinion of others in relation to our own identity and goals. Sometimes culture, social control systems and conditioning, imprison us. Often, our fear of failure is rooted in our fear of being judged, losing the respect of others and our self esteem. We are easily influenced by what people say about us. Remember, when deciding, this is your life, not theirs.  What one person considers to be true about you is not necessarily the truth about you. If you give too much power to the opinion of others, it could influence your passion and confidence, undermining your ability to ultimately decide with your inner freedom. In all difficult moments, take a distance from the problem and raise above the problem and the circumstances that created the problem. Listen to your inner voice and your heart. Feel free to consult someone who really loves you and wish you good. 

How to face failures in life part 4

Stop brooding on your failures : The best way to overcome failure is to learn to let go. Obsessing over your failure will not change the outcome. In fact, it will only intensify the outcome, trapping you in an emotional doom-loop that disables you from moving on. You cannot change the past, but you can shape your future. Take your present seriously and act upon it. The faster you take a positive step forward, the quicker you can leave the past burden monopolizing thoughts behind This is the surest way to face the present.

How to face failures in life part 3

In facing failures, The Most Essential Ten Letter Word, “CONFIDENCE”  Trust It. Failure does not mean you are a failure. It does mean you have not succeeded yet. Failure does not mean you have accomplished nothing, it does mean you have learned something new. Failure does not mean you are a fool, it does mean you had the courage to try something new. Failure does not mean you have been disgraced, it does mean you were unwilling to try to improve. Failure does not mean you do not have the capacity or talent, it does mean you have to do something in a different way. Failure does not mean you are inferior, it does mean you are not perfect. Failure does not mean you have wasted your life. It does mean you have got reason to start afresh in life. Failure does not mean you should give up. It does mean you should try harder. Failure does not mean you will never make it. It does mean it will take a little longer.

How to face failures part 2

Take time, reflect, analyze, learn and adapt:

Look at the failure analytically-suspending feeling of anger, blame, frustration, revengeful attitude and regret. Why did you fail? What might have produced a better outcome? Was the failure completely beyond your control? After gathering the facts, take a step back and ask yourself, what did I learn from this experience of failure? What does it tell me of my person? Reflect further how you will apply the new insight in going forward to get along with the situation. Remember, Thomas Edison reported that he failed 10,000 times while he was inventing the electric light bulb. He said that he had found 10,000 ways that something would not work. He was not discouraged because every time he failed he came one step further to success. Similarly, the wright brothers worked many years on a failed aircraft until they made it right so the plane could fly. So, never be discouraged. Each failure is another opportunity to bring the best out of your talents. So, I say failure is a stepping stone to greater success. 

 

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When you are faced with a challenge or failure, separate the act of failure from your personal identity. Just because you have not found a successful way of doing something, does not mean that you are a failure in life or a loser on life. Remember that there was a man who failed in his business at the age of 21, was defeated in a legislative election race at the age of 22, failed again in business at the age of 24, overcame the sadness due to the death of his fiancée at the age 26, had a nervous breakdown at the age of 27, lost a congressional race at the age of 34, lost a senatorial race at the age of 45, became vice president at the age of 47, again lost the race of senatorial post at the age of 49, but still was elected as the president of the USA at the age of 52. This is an example of how to face failures in life . He is Abraham Lincoin . He refused to let his failures define him and fought against significant odds to achieve his goals.  

How to face failures in Life

 
We all make mistakes. How do we learn from our mistakes?
Let us learn how to face a situation of failure and crisis. Most of us know that failure is a reality of life, and at some level, we understand that it actually helps us to grow. Intellectually, we even acknowledge that the greatest achievers — past and present — also routinely experienced failures. But still, we hate to fail.  We fear it, and when it does happen, we hold onto it.  We give it power over our emotions, and sometimes we allow it to dictate our way forward (or backward). Some of us go to great lengths to avoid failures because of all the pain and shame associated with it. There comes a dead end. In making a mistake, why is it so hard to let go? forgive ourselves? and move on?  How can we keep failures – or mistakes and the fear of it — from derailing us and stopping us to do what we want to do? There is no easy solution. If you are interested, my following six posts will give you some guidance to handle failures in life. Read further …

How to choose freedom to begin anew

There is a story about how the duck learnt to swim. The Duck and Hen lived together in a house by the seaside. Their food was the rotten fish that the fishermen threw away. Everyday, they watch a Heron swimming up and down the sea, catching and eating fresh fish. This made the Duck yearn to have fresh fish. But, the Hen said to the Duck, “Why do you yearn for what you cannot have? The Heron is a sea-bird. Her body is light. We are land-birds and land-birds cannot swim. If you jump into the sea, your heavy body will sink like a stone and that will be the end of you.” The Duck was convinced by the Hen. So they went on eating the rotten fish. But this did not stop the Duck’s hunger and yearning for fresh fish.

On one very hot and humid day, the Duck could not eat anything. Her thought was on the fresh fish and the smell of rotten fish became very bad. Though hungry, she went and sat by herself, quietly looking at the sea. In a moment, the Heron came sailing by and saw the Duck in a pitiable condition. The Heron asked her what was the matter and the Duck told him everything: how she always long to swim and eat fresh fish but, unfortunately, the Creator had made her a heavy land-bird. It was then that the Heron explained to the Duck that sometime in the past, even he himself was not a swimmer, but was forced by hunger to jump into the sea and then discovered he could swim. The Heron invited the Duck to jump into the sea and give it a try but the Duck was afraid. With more encouragement from the Heron, the Duck overcame her fears and jumped into the sea. To her surprise, the Duck saw that she was not sinking but was floating. With time, the Duck learnt to swim well and could catch and eat as much fresh fish as she wanted.

If you want to make a new beginning, it is important to get out  of your cosy shell, fears, anxiety, shyness and bad moods.  You can realise the God-given dignity as a human being. Do you feel like you are born to be a winner and yet  due to laziness and slow nature, postponing things, acting upon your moods, you  are idly walking and eating rotten fish by the seaside? The good news is that if you are well motivated, surely whatever weakness or handicap that holds you down will disappear and you can be a winner. Do not pay heed to inner fear, anxiety, bad ideas and moods. To  transform yourself from your passive to active nature, you need to take control of your life. Act upon it with strong will and get out of the boring journey of life

Setting New Goals

Some people make goals for life. But when difficulties and challenges come their way, they are tempted to give up. I should say, Never!, Never!, Never! give up. It is easy to say never give up .What does it mean?:

  • ·         You are never old to set a new goal to your dream
  • ·         Do not dream your life but live your dream
  • ·         Most of the things you worry about sometimes never happen
  • ·         The greatest thing you ever learn is to love and be loved that you can always begin 
  • ·         Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery, Today is a gift
  • ·         That is why we call it the present. So live your present well and your past and future will be bright. After all, the past and future is being shaped now depending on what you decide to do. Good luck to you .

 

Compassion

Compassion is a virtue as well as a feeling. It involves the willingness to put oneself in someone else’s situation and position. It is the recognition of other people’s problems, pain, frustrations as real and as one’s own. Compassion is something that you can develop with constant practice and attention. It needs intention and action. Intention means openness to others. Action means what you do about your compassionate feeling towards others. You can give a gift of money, time and your talents to reach out to others. You can become an all inclusive person. Mother Theresa used to say often that “we
cannot do great things but we can do small things with great love.” Can you be a compassionate person today?