A good friend is like an image of God. God, who is the creator, knows our past, our present and even our future. God guides our destiny with love. God welcomes us as we are and loves us unconditionally. Even when we go wrong, God comes after us and tells us : “Fear not, I am with you”. Real good friends too, know our past, our present and even our future. Good and longing friends welcome the other as he or she is even in their ups and downs in life. There is no fear in the presence of a real friend. If you have not experienced God, a real friend can help you to experience God. Can you find an image of God in any of your friends? Can you love your friend as he or she is?
Friends are like sign posts. One has to be careful in choosing friends. A proverb says that birds of the same feather flock together. Some friends can support and influence each other. Lucky are those who can get along with their friends. Sometimes, competition and jealousy can arise between friends. It is good to take the time to get to know the temperaments, likes and dislikes of each other to make the journey easy. Friendship is like an investment, it grows or diminishes in the course of time, unless they take good care of the needs of each other. Some sort of formal as well as informal meetings and sharing can go a long way to nurture the friendship. One has to set priority and create time to engage in activities together. This can be cooking, playing a game or going for a walk or for shopping together, etc. Can you enumerate what you like to do together with your friends? What are some of your fond memories of a friend? Do you really miss your friend? Did you ever experience a breakup in your friendship? How do you value friendship? What do you look for in a friend?
Choice of friends. Our life is full of choices. We can choose whatever profession, whatever study and whatever food that we like to eat and the places we like to visit and stay. However, one of the most important choices is the choice of friends or relationship. Our life span is limited. Therefore, one of the most important choices is: with whom and how do we spend our time? Often, our plans and programmes are influenced by our choice of friends. Friendship is something you cannot force upon someone or demand from someone. We need to be wise, careful and have the freedom in choosing our friends. You can have friends who are living close to you or living far away. Your close or intimate friend is someone you often long to be with in good times as well as in bad times. You may seek advice and or spend your holiday and free time with him or her. Some people wish to have close friends but do not put in any effort to cultivate their friendship. You need to invest time and resources to establish and maintain an intimate friendship. You cannot passively wait until someone comes to you and say, I like you or I like to be your friend. If you like someone, you need to tell him or her your good intention to be friends. But remember not to force anyone to be your friend, as real friendship can grow only if there is true freedom. Sometimes there can be rejection and painful moments in the process of cultivating a friendship. Are you willing to take the risk and try to reach out to the other to find a faithful friend or a partner in your life journey?
It is true that all like to have friends and like to keep friendship growing. Friends are like stars in the sky. They are always there shining but we do not see them always . One needs to invest time and resource to develop good friendship. Good friendship help for teh mutual grwoth .It is a big support in in good times as well as less good times .